People-Pleasing

Do you...​

1. Find it challenging to say no, even when it inconveniences you or compromises your own needs and priorities

2. Have a deep-seated fear of rejection or disapproval

3. Go to great lengths to avoid conflict or disagreement to maintain positive relationships​

4. Apologize frequently, even for things that are not your fault

5. Prioritizing others' needs and desires over your own

6. Have difficulty expressing your opinions or making decisions for yourself for fear of disappointing others

7. Seek external validation and approval from others to feel a sense of self-worth

8. Feel overwhelmed and exhausted from trying to take on more than you can handle

9. Have difficulty setting boundaries and often feel taken advantage of by the people in your life

10. Feel resentful of people because you are contributing more to the relationship than they are

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It's important to note that while wanting to help others and relationships is a positive trait, being a chronic people pleaser can have negative consequences for one's own well-being. Developing healthy boundaries, assertiveness skills, and self-awareness can be important steps in addressing people-pleasing tendencies. Through Attachment-Based Therapy, I help my people-pleasing clients learn these important skills in order to feel more joyful, rested, and build more equitable and fulfilling relationships.